“So what is a love coach?” is what EVERYONE asks me when I hand them my business card or tell them what I do. I’m going to publish to all the world once and for all the answer to that question:
As a Love Coach, I help people experience more love in their life and their relationships.
“So, are you a dating coach? Can you help me find a date, someone to love, marry, live happily ever after with? Can you help me find my perfect soul mate?” are some of the next questions I will hear after that very brief answer above. Why do we humans desire all those things? Because we want to feel loved unconditionally. We want to feel that we are lovable, cherished, accepted, respected, heard, and wanted. However, what most don’t realize is, all of that can be achieved by learning how to truly love themselves.
Did you know that 60-75% of all humans feel like no one really loves them?
Almost everyone (and I would even be so bold as to say that EVERYONE) has felt unloved at some point in their lives. I actually remember the day I first felt I was unlovable and not deserving of love. I was 4 years old when my dad took his own life and left us, left me, all alone. Since that day, I have felt unlovable, unworthy of love, and not good enough. It was on this day, July 26, 1966, that I stopped loving myself. Ever since then, I have been trying to find the love that I lost that day.
Every human born on this planet has a story of lost love; of abuse, neglect, abandonment, or rejection. These stories are always laced with trauma filled with emotions of sadness, fear, and heartbreak. They usually happen early in life and are carried with us into every aspect of our life from then on, creating all kinds of struggle, pain and suffering.
I actually thought I had finally found the love I had lost so long ago when I met and married the most amazing man; one who taught me what true unconditional love looks like. We were married for 27 years when he died unexpectedly of a rare blood disease in 2016. I have never felt so alone, vulnerable, and scared that I would never feel lovable or loved ever again. I didn’t know what I was going to do without him here to prove to the world (and more importantly to myself) that I deserved to be loved and cherished unconditionally.
After the loss of my greatest love, my best friend, and husband, I embarked on a journey to finding again the love I lost as a 4 year old. This time, it would be a love that could never be lost again. Finding this love for myself has helped my relationship with my mother turn from one of judgment, resentment, pain and hurting one another to a relationship of respect, acceptance, fun, happiness, and love. It has helped me to be more compassionate towards others, given me confidence to stand up for myself, say what I need to say and ask for what I really need to be happy. I have never felt more comfortable being myself than I do now.
Love is not a destination we can ever attain: it is who we truly are at our very core, it is our essence, our power, our Super Power! I am still on this amazing journey of love and some of my expressions of this journey is through my coaching, speaking, and writing.
If any of my story resonates with you, please feel free to reach out to me via the ‘Contact’ page, or schedule a free call with me to see if we are a good match for coaching. I look forward to hearing from you!